This chapter examines how access to marriage might change lesbian and gay identities over time in ways that are stressful for lesbian and gay people. Drawing on interviews with gay couples from the Netherlands, it considers the debate over the consequences of same-sex marriage for the gay community itself. In particular, it analyzes the fears and claims of those who oppose gay marriage in order to better understand what is behind the emotions. It also explores whether marriage will lead to the end of gay culture, whether the marriage campaign will impede progress on other important political issues such as health care, and whether marriage will marginalize unmarried lesbians, gays, and bisexuals.